Stand up and SAY something Nice, you will be sorry if you didn’t.
How do you react to someone passing on, Dying, are you cool, are you a handler, a person that can handle any given situation, even death to somebody close.
We have, like most folks, seen our share of friends, neighbors, and family pass on to the other side. Never gets easier, and certainly, it’s not something you get used to. In some cases, the guilt sets in should have said something, done something different.
I will never have that time back again to say what you should have said
Many years back, a complete family, good friends of ours, died in a house fire. I do remember at the funeral and during the service, I had to go outside and get ..Composed, maybe shed a few tears. I should have gone up front., in front of all those people and said a few words, but chose not to.
Outside these 2 young fellas were joking and laughing. I said to the one young man, this a very bad time to be making funnies.
As I get older I have been to too many of these services and none are getting any easier, but I have noticed that everybody acts differently.
I myself act differently towards death, in different situations, young, old, sick, seems to make a difference in how I or my body handles their passing. I’m a little more tolerant in my years with the joke telling, and I have to think that I’m not so judgmental any more about people, that look that they show no feeling or any emotions and you have to believe that everybody is hurting inside, for you just wouldn’t hang out at these places.
Putting on a brave face is just a brave face, certainly telling jokes at a funeral was out, but even now I look at that differently.
I have had many very close family members pass on and I miss them all dearly, and sometimes like most people, I would have done things differently given a Second Chance and most times it just doesn’t work that way.
Everybody handles Funerals, Celebration of life differently but, if the opportunity arises, that you can stand up, say a few words of kindness about that person you miss already. Try, no matter how difficult you think it may be. Say some words, talk about fun times, good times, people that are at the service will totally understand if you think you’re going to make mistakes, They will look at you and say to themselves how brave you are and in the same breath, I should go up and say something, anything but chose …. “Not-too”
At some point in your life, it will cross your mind that you could have but didn’t.
So … “THERE was your Second Chance.”
You can pay no better tribute to a person that you loved, respected or “you miss already.”
If you think there’s a message in this post, there is, for somebody.
“And NO; … There nothing funny about DEATH”.
Dedicated to my Daughter Shelley that passed away far too soon.
2 Brothers, Mother, and Father